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DISHONOR HINDERS ANSWERED PRAYER



THE IMPACT OF DISHONOR

Most people do not realize the magnitude of honor nor the repercussions of dishonor. Dishonor cripples you in every area of your life. Dishonor invades your prayer life, your family, your church and your workplace. Let’s further examine the magnitude of dishonor by using an illustration between husbands and wives,

“In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.” (1 Peter 3:7)

The key to this verse is honor. Paul tells husbands they must give honor—not as an option, but as a command. The man is to esteem his wife, highly elevating and valuing her. When he withholds honor from her, his prayers are hindered. Hindered prayers are damaging not only to the husband but to the entire family. Remember, she is God’s daughter that has been entrusted to the husband. Husbands are the head of the wife (Ephesians 5:23) and will be held accountable for how he treats her, cares for her, and cultivates her. This reality is sobering and should cause men to walk in the fear of the Lord, valuing their wives with the utmost respect. Husbands are commanded in Ephesians 5:25-26 to:

• Love their wives as Christ loves the church

• Give up their life for her

• Make her holy and clean by the washing of God’s Word

Your prayers will be hindered due to dishonor. The Greek definition for the word hindered is “to cut off”. Have you ever had your phone service cut off? That is what happens to prayers when dishonor is in one’s heart, the direct line to God is “cut off”. If you are cut off, you are not going to receive any kind of miracles or answered prayers. How many men have gone years with their prayers being hindered because of withholding honor from their wives?


Nothing, according to scripture, so clearly affects your prayer life as honor does.


I notice my prayer life elevates dramatically when I honor my wife. As a matter of fact, without exaggeration, I hear from God the fastest and most concretely when I am praying seeking to honor my wife.

I could be seeking the Lord concerning ministry endeavors, daily guidance, or any need I may have; but the moment I pray about honoring my wife, the answer comes swiftly every single time. I now often ask, “How can I honor my wife?” Almost immediately the Holy Spirit will tell me, “help her with that project, vacuum the house, do the dishes, take her on a date, send her a message, help her at work, get her a gift, etc.” The answers come quickly and specifically.


If you are married, try it! Simply ask, “How can I honor my spouse today?” Watch how quickly the Holy Spirit will speak to you, and then be obedient.

I can see how my honor causes ripple effects in my marriage. Honoring literally invigorates the very core of my wife’s being. It's as if the honor I am sowing into her develops into unity between us and confidence in herself. Our relationship is fortified because of the trust honor cultivates.


One day while praying, “How can I honor my wife?” I was led to clean the house: vacuuming, laundry, cleaning the bathroom, and dishes. I am ashamed to say that for the first eight years of my marriage, I only did these tasks a handful of times. As I was completing these tasks, I genuinely asked the Lord to change my heart towards cleaning the house. When you sincerely ask God to change your heart and give Him full access, He does just that. God moved in me quickly and I began assisting with these tasks more than I ever had before. And to my surprise, what I hated doing before, I now enjoy. Through honoring my wife, my prayers were unhindered, and God answered me quickly!

Dishonor will cut off your direct line to God.

Honor will give you direct access to God.


 

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Adams Sabila
Adams Sabila
08 avr. 2021

Thank you for these incredible teachings on the subject of honoring our wives. This is the struggle we have has men and especially for some of us in the ministry, we assume that our prayers are heard and yet they are not because of our disloyalty. Thank you for opening my eyes and I am looking forward to showing honor to my wife and as I ask the Lord to show me how I can honor her.

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Gary Montoya
Gary Montoya
23 avr. 2021
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Wow. Amen! Thank YOU pastor Adams! I'm blessed by your message.

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Arieta Voli
Arieta Voli
08 avr. 2021

Such an interesting Book,but my tears falling down while reading it. My husband left us 3 years ago , disloyal to me and have another woman with him now. We have 3 daughters he paid everything for us, all I have to do is looking after my daughters, and his enjoying with another Woman .

I do everything for us , while my daughters sick I have less hour to sleep worry about them.Im happy for this book it's encouraged me a lot.

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Gary Montoya
Gary Montoya
23 avr. 2021
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I am sorry to hear this. I WILL pray for you! I am grateful to hear you are going through the book and that it is encouraging you. Keep pursuing being a vessel of honor (2 Tim. 2:21) God is preparing you for your calling!

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prophetessbarbara61
08 avr. 2021

I was in a situation where my pastor and his wife showed me complete hatred and I dishonored them without recognizing that I was doing it. Now I feel like I am no longer accepted by him, his leadership or the people. I have been praying and asking God to forgive me and have His way in my life. God used Dr Cerullo to prophesy into my life. My pastor wanted the prophesy but I was told not to tell him that. All this occurred after pastor told me in the presence of his leadership that if anyone reports to him that I am sleeping around with all the men in the church he would kick me out (Pastor lif…


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Gary Montoya
Gary Montoya
23 avr. 2021
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I am sorry to hear this. Unfortunately situation like this happen all to often. Our war isn't against flesh and blood but against spiritual principalities. The enemy wants to divide the church and people. I write about situations like this in the book. I pray and hope it is inspiring you and encouraging you in this season! Keep pursuing being a vessel of honor (2 Tim. 2:21)

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